Beth worked as a seasonal Ceremony Officer at Essex County Council this year. This is what she had to say about her experience in the role…
What do you find most fulfilling about your role as a ceremony officer?
What I personally find most fulfilling about being a Ceremony Officer is the privilege of facilitating one of life’s most meaningful moments for a couple. It’s an incredible honour to enable the couples I have met to celebrate their love with their family and friends. Each ceremony is unique, and knowing that I have contributed to a day people will treasure and remember for years to come is truly gratifying. I also love having one of the best seats in the house, witnessing a couple’s love for each other so closely is truly humbling.
Can you describe a memorable moment from a ceremony that stood out to you?
One memorable moment that stands out took place at an outdoor ceremony situated beside a large pond. I was reading out the lawful impediment part of the ceremony. When I asked the guests if anyone had an objection, a duck started quacking extremely loudly. As the guests started to laugh, I reminded them through my own laughter that ducks didn’t count! It was a small, unscripted moment that brought humour and warmth to the ceremony and certainly helped the couple’s nervousness to disappear. That flash of spontaneity really added a layer of charm to the ceremony and showed how the best moments can sometimes be totally unplanned.
“It’s easy to get carried away with the big occasion of the day, but for me, it’s the small gestures – like a glance, a laugh, a groom brushing his bride’s hair out of her eyes.”
How do you handle unexpected events or emotions that arise during a ceremony?
Working in pairs allows for each of you to support one another and work as a team. I also remind myself to remain calm, grounded and flexible. Emotions can run high during a ceremony and it’s important to take that into consideration. If someone needs a moment, I give them that, and if something goes off script, I adapt. The ability to improvise comes with experience, but empathy and composure are crucial. By staying present and focusing on the heart of the ceremony, I can help everyone feel comfortable, and hopefully deliver a beautiful ceremony.
Have you learned anything surprising about yourself or others through your work?
One surprising thing I’ve learnt is just how much I appreciate the quieter, reflective moments that happen both during the ceremony and when interviewing the couple beforehand. It’s easy to get carried away with the big occasion of the day, but for me, it’s the small gestures – like a glance, a laugh, a groom brushing his bride’s hair out of her eyes. I’ve found myself very moved by these fleeting, genuine moments so much so that it’s taught me to slow down and appreciate them in my own life.
What advice would you give to someone new to the role of a Ceremony Officer?
My biggest piece of advice would be to approach each ceremony with preparation and openness. Keep calm and know that on the day, you have the support of your colleague as well as your training to fall back on. Always have a spare packet of tissues in your bag and if you like to wear a heel, keep a pair of flats in the car.
